Jenny McCarthy knows how to get attention. And boy, does she get it! She has been on the 'trending now' list on Yahoo online for a few days now, creating a buzz for posing nude on the cover of the Playboy magazine.
It may not be a big deal that she is a gorgeous, almost-40 posing nude. Her being a mother has nothing to do with it. But two things irk me. The article says that according to Jenny, women tell her that she is on their husbands’ list (of women they would choose “to be with” if allowed) and that she called the cover page a “Salute to the MILFs.” A salute??? MILF??? I wouldn’t even explain the term (which I myself learnt about just now) for fear that the younger readers would read it.
To me, the whole incident is a creation of false impressions, expectations and devaluation of women, especially those in their 40s and above. As Julienne Shepherd writes in Afternet, which 40-year-old woman with a full-time career, children and other responsibilities has the time and money to focus entirely on themselves? Besides, in this ”look young and desirable till you die” age, it puts tremendous pressure on women and instead of being able to age gracefully, they are pressured into feeling old, haggard and undesirable.
I will come back to the women and their husbands’ list in another blog someday, but the “Salute to the MILF” crosses all the barriers of respect, relationships, societal norms by totally objectifying women. As I was mentioning this to a psychologist friend of mine who is herself in her 40s, she told me that last week while she was at a pub waiting for her girlfriends, a younger guy hit on her. When she chided him and reminded him that she was old enough to be his mother, he said yes, she was an “MILF” and would she go out with him?
Call me old fashioned, but if these barriers of age, relationships and respect are broken, no child will be safe. No young girl or young boy will be safe. Think about it.
What do you think?